Authentic leaders embody a healthy alignment between their internal values and beliefs and their external behavior. Their authenticity builds trust and fosters engagement, enthusiasm, and motivation among their employees and peers.
In contrast, inauthenticity can often be recognized by others and become a disruptive, negative force, adding to uncertainty and discord.
While it may seem like becoming more authentic is as simple as trying to be more authentic, the truth is...
You become more authentic by uncovering and letting go
of what is hiding your true self.
This is much easier said than done. Our world seems to thrive on inauthenticity. As a result, you may be in the habit of showing up differently depending on who you are with or what situation you're in—playing a certain role, wearing a particular mask, speaking in a certain manner—basically doing what you've learned it takes to gain acceptance or approval. But over time, these behaviors become habituated to the point of becoming nearly unconscious. When this happens, you may experience the disconcerting feeling of being you, but not yourself.
If you reflect back on the most meaningful times in your life—the heartfelt connections, genuine praise, constructive feedback, and moments of shared vulnerability—I'm sure you can sense an element of "realness", all made possible by the presence of authenticity. We have an innate desire to be authentic and we want to be around authenticity. It inspires and attracts us. We know it when we experience it and we resonate with it strongly. And precisely because we are so immersed in inauthenticity, we often have a deep craving for its antithesis. You may have even noticed that...
The more you try to be something other than yourself,
the more the desire to be yourself grows.
Conversely, when you're aligned with your truth,
you feel more grounded, centered, easeful and empowered.
Leading authentically is liberating, but it can also be quite scary to leave the familiarity and predictability that our inauthenticity provides. This is where I can help! As your coach, I'll work with you to gain greater self-knowledge as we seek to understand your values, beliefs and motivations and how they align and diverge from how you want to live and lead your life. We'll dive into the details and the common threads as we work toward your goals with tailored inquiries, coaching and practices.
Learn about working with me and my background here.